Saturday, March 12, 2011

Why I Should Give Up On Dorm Life And Get An Apartment

Location: Dorm
Listening to: The end of My Girl 2
Mood: Exasperated

I do not know of any dorms that are that cool looking. I mean, our desks only have 3 drawers and 1 shelf and our room is not nearly large enough to house that much comfy-looking furniture. I want that dorm!

Recently, I've been having a lot of issues with my housing plans for next year. And I don't think I've ranted about it yet, so I'm going to do that now.

Next year, my current roommate is living in the suites on campus, which are more expensive, which is why I didn't move there with her. My one close friend will be living in a sorority house. So I am stuck with the option of living with a stranger. I'm totally ok with that. In fact, living with a stranger is on my bucket list. I think it could be a cool experience and maybe help me make some good friends.

The way we sign up for housing is as follows: you fill out your housing contract, and on a certain date (in this case, last Monday), a website opens where you can select the building and floor you'd like to live on. Then, there is a list of open rooms on that floor of that building, and you click on one and it shows you if anyone else has selected it and you can decide you want to live there or not live there.

I totally lucked out and found a room open on the first floor of the building I currently live in, which made me really happy, because I love this building. So I e-mailed the girl who had already signed up for it and introduced myself. She e-mailed me back later that night and informed me that there had been a mistake. Her friend was supposed to room with her, but had been having technological problems and ended up not being able to sign up before I did. So, she asked me if I would consider moving to a different building.

By the time she e-mailed me, all of the rooms on the side of campus I lived on this year and want to remain on next year were booked. All of them. So my only option would have been to move to the other side of campus. Which I really didn't want to do. So I told her I'd keep my eye open for something to open up on the side of campus I live on, but it might be easier for her and her friend to pick a double that was still open on the other side of campus.

The next day, I got an e-mail from her friend saying that the two of them had gone to talk to the Residence Life people and came up with a plan to find me a different room on this side of campus so they could live together in that room. This kind of frustrated me, because they didn't even tell me that they were going to go make a plan about something that so heavily involves me. So I replied saying I would still try to find something open on this side of campus, and reminded them that it might be easier for them to just pick one of the many quickly-filling doubles on the other side of campus.

A few days later I got another e-mail from the friend. She informed me that they checked and all of the open doubles had at least one person living in them now, and that they only way they could live together would be for me to move to the other side of campus. So I told them I'd think about it.

And I did. I thought about it for the past three days. And I decided it would be best for me to stay in my current building. You all know about the anxiety I get. No matter what I'm going to have to live with a stranger next year. But the building I currently live in is the same building all of my friends are going to be living in next year and it's really close to Brad's apartment. I feel like having to adjust to living with a stranger on a side of campus I'm not familiar with in a building I've never been in far away from my friends and boyfriend would give me anxiety. Really badly.

So today I e-mailed them and told them all of that. And the friend e-mailed me back saying she understands, but it just sucks for them because they picked that room first and it's not her fault she couldn't sign up before me.

The whole situation is kind of a mess. The girls who want to room together have been being nice, considering the circumstances, but kind of immature at the same time. It's not my fault I picked their room. I didn't know they wanted to room together. I didn't know I'd be screwing stuff up for them and for myself. There were a lot of other options for them to live together if they had considered them right away when they noticed this whole situation happened, but they wanted to live in that room because it's next door to one of their guy friends.

I guess if something else doesn't open up for me, they've talked to a girl who will switch with the girl who had signed up for my room before me, so I won't have to live with either of them. Which would be nice, I think, because I wouldn't want to have any bad feelings between me and my roommate before we even move in together.

At this point, I don't even care if I stay in the same building I lived in this year. I would be happy with anything on this side of campus. And I really don't want to screw up these girls' plans so badly. I just keep thinking about how bad it would suck if I were in their position. I'm sure they don't like trying to convince me to move,  either, and knowing that whether or not you get to live with your friend depends on a stranger's decision must suck.

I just want this mess to be fixed and over with. Ugghghghghghghg.


  1. My best advice is to make the decision that is best for you. You will resent it if you be a 'good person' and move to another building on the other side of campus with people you don't know and far from your bf. Hold your ground. You have earned the right to stay where you feel comfortable. It's there fault that things didn't work out perfectly for them. Welcome to life. Adjust. They will probably stay friends longer if they don't live together so in reality you are doing them a favor.

  2. Oh, that Kal he is so wise. It's your spot where you want to be..hold your ground.

    And for the last post (Ijust read) 20 dozen clams once. And the famous 72oz Texas steak.